Going From Friend To Lover

If you’ve ever been in the friend-zone with someone, you know as well as anyone how painful it can be to spend so much time with someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you as you feel about them.

And that pain is present almost constantly, whether you are spending time with them or are simply lying awake at night thinking about them.

Although many people lose hope that their friendship with this person will ever become anything more than just a friendship, there is still a chance that you can make the jump from friend to lover if you play your cards right.

To start, you need to make sure that any talk about relationships with other people is kept to a bare minimum.

Such discussions are typically reserved for friends, and you want to do your best to distance yourself from this perception.

If such topics come up, be sure to keep responses brief and succinct.

And if your friend continues to press on things like who you like, or who may like you, play things close to the vest.

This will have the added effect of making you seem mysterious to your friend and may in fact make them realize that they are interested in you romantically, at least somewhat.

At the very least, it will distance yourself from a topic of conversation that would only solidify you as a good friend and nothing more.

In the meantime, you need to make sure you aren’t overly clingy with them, even as far as friends are concerned.

Clinginess is one of the least liked attributes in romantic partners, and if you are clingy as a friend, they most certainly would not even consider you as a romantic partner.

Although you shouldn’t stop hanging out with them, make sure that you make separate time for yourself and your other friends.

This will not only help reduce how clingy you appear to them as a whole, but it will also help you come across as someone who has their own distinct interests, which is a huge turn-on for most people.

With all of this time being spent away from your friend, you still need to make sure that when you do actually spend time with them, that you make the most of it.

Try to do things that are reminiscent of people who are dating.

For example, if you are a male and want to be chivalrous, hold the door open for them wherever they go.

Or just try your best to make them smile and laugh the whole time you are with them.

And make sure this is all being done under the guise of friendship and nothing more.

Over time, your friend may realize that the qualities they see in you are exactly what they want in a lover.

Meaning they will slowly start to come around to the idea of you being relationship material.

Now keep in mind that this will not always work, no matter how hard you try to make it happen.

Some people can unfortunately be stick in the friend-zone permanently for a variety of reasons.

But if you are serious about trying to go from friend to lover, definitely consider all of this advice and try it out for yourself.

There’s definitely no harm in trying, not to mention a lot of benefit if you can actually pull it off!